What are elements of successful mentoring relationship?

As with any other relationship in your life, a successful mentoring relationship is one that requires the parties involved to be committed to the work that needs to be done. In this case, that would be helping you navigate and negotiate school you can successfully graduate. The following elements, however, can be helpful in determining what you need in such a relationship:

  • Reciprocity: What will each person give and receive from the relationship?

  • Learning: What have  you learned or are learning about yourself as  result of this relationship?

  • Relationship: What type of relationship would you like to have and wht expectations do you have of the relationship?

  • Partnership: Ho do mentor and mentee share responsibility and investment in developing and maintaining the relationship?

  • Collaboration: How do mentor and mentee share knowledge to help the mentee move forward in her or his personal and/or professional learning?

  • Mutually Defined Goals: Have mentor and mentee greed upon clealy defined goals for the relationship, its purpose, and its goals?

  • Development: How will mentor and mentee determine the mentee's development in the relationship?

  • Context: How does the cultural, historical, social, and/or economic contexts of mentor and mentee shape the relationship?

(adapted from The Mentor's Guide: Facilitating Effective Learning Relationships by Lois J. Zachary)